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Therapist Spotlight: The Power of Deeper Connections with Tasha Seiter
Feb 05, 2025
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This blog dives into Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method with Dr. Tasha Seiter, a specialist in helping couples build deeper, healthier connections. Learn how they got started, and their science-backed approach to therapy.
What inspired you to become a therapist?
I’ve been obsessed with understanding people and relationships since I was a kid. By 15, I knew I wanted to be a therapist. My grandfather gave me a book about twins separated at birth, and despite being raised in completely different environments, they had uncanny similarities. That lit a fire in me—I wanted to know everything about what makes us who we are.
Growing up in a family of helpers (my dad’s a nurse practitioner, my mom’s a social worker), I guess you could say this career path was in my DNA. But the moment that sealed the deal?
At 19, I was on a camping trip, reading John Gottman’s research by the light of a headlamp. He studied newlyweds and could predict—with 90% accuracy—who would divorce just by watching their interactions. Mind. Blown. I knew then that I wanted to help people have healthier, happier relationships.
How would you describe your therapeutic style?
Compassionate, collaborative, and straight-up practical. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, two approaches that aren’t just feel-good fluff but are backed by decades of research.
My goal? Create a space where you feel heard, understood, and supported while giving you real, actionable tools to break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections.
What types of clients do you specialize in working with?
Couples who are stuck—whether in constant conflict or just feeling emotionally miles apart. I’ve always been fascinated by how human connection can heal, and I love helping people rediscover that sense of closeness. Watching couples go from hopeless to thriving? That never gets old.
Can you share a particularly challenging case and what you learned from it?
Without giving away details, I’ve worked with couples facing deep wounds—betrayal, years of emotional disconnection, the works. The biggest lesson? Change happens in small, consistent steps. People often want a quick fix, but real healing takes patience, trust, and a willingness to lean in even when it’s uncomfortable.
How do you ensure cultural sensitivity in your practice?
Every person’s story is unique, and shaped by their background, experiences, and identity. I approach each session with curiosity and zero assumptions. I actively seek training, mentorship, and consultation from professionals with different perspectives so I can keep learning and growing. I believe therapy should be a safe, inclusive space where you feel valued and understood.
What’s the secret to building a strong therapist-client relationship?
Ooh, I cannot say this enough: Trust, trust, and more trust. My job is to create a space where you feel safe enough to be real. No judgment. No “therapist voice.” Just an honest, human-to-human connection that allows us to dig deep and do the work together.
How do you stay updated with the latest research and techniques?
I geek out over new research, take ongoing training in EFT and the Gottman Method, and seek out mentorship. I love learning new ways to help my clients, and honestly? I just find this stuff fascinating.
Can you share a success story that stands out?
I still remember this couple who came to me. They had completely shut down emotionally and wanted to find their way back to each other. When one partner finally voiced a long-held fear, the other responded with so much love and understanding that it completely changed their dynamic. That kind of breakthrough is what makes this work so powerful.
How do you prevent burnout as a therapist?
Honestly, I'm glad someone brought this up. I feel there are three things that can help therapists from burnout: Boundaries, nature, and good music. I hike, bike, and swim to recharge. I also love audiobooks on mindfulness and relationships—partly for work, but mostly because I’m a nerd about this stuff. And let’s be real, sometimes the best self-care is just a night of live music or a Netflix binge.
What are some common misconceptions about therapy?
This one's my favorite. Someone once came up to me and said, "Isn't therapy only for when things are falling apart?" And I was like, "Umm, not really." Therapy can be proactive, a way to strengthen relationships and grow as a person—not just a last resort when everything’s on fire.
Can you describe a breakthrough moment in therapy?
I’ve seen clients make life-changing shifts simply by feeling safe enough to express emotions they’ve buried for years. One couple had been avoiding a hard conversation for a decade. When they finally opened up, it was like watching a weight lift off their shoulders. Vulnerability is hard, but it’s also where the magic happens.
How do you measure progress in therapy?
Progress isn’t a straight line. It’s not about perfection—it’s about feeling more connected, improving communication, and learning to navigate challenges differently. And we celebrate every win, no matter how small.
If you or someone you love wants to try Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), please reach out to Tasha at: